This is for the girls…

Today’s society has engrained the picture of the “ideal woman” in our heads, since we were young. We are taught that if we aren’t skinny, with incredibly long legs, and a small waist, we aren’t beautiful. I want to remind you that being “beautiful” (outwardly) is not the most important thing in the world. What is more important is knowing that we are created in God’s image and we are fearfully and wonderfully made.

This message is for any girl who has ever struggled with her body image. This message is for girls who have a low-self esteem. The girls who are struggling. The girls who are depressed. The girls who are trying to be perfect. The girls who have a hard time looking at themselves in a mirror. The girls who feel inadequate. The girls who have been bullied or called ugly. The girls with eating disorders or anxiety…this is for a girl like you. We all struggle with our body image, including me…and I want to talk about what it means to be “worth more.” “She is worth FAR more than rubies and pearls.” She meaning YOU!!!

SO…

What is the definition of beauty? 

NOUN

a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight:
“I was struck by her beauty” ·
a beautiful or pleasing thing or person, in particular.

What people miss out on is that true beauty is not defined by our “common qualities, our shapes, our color, or our form.” True beauty is more about the character we have inside of us.

I want to remind you that God formed every piece of us, he knows the number of hairs on our heads, he molded us and shaped us. He knows us deep down, he knows our hurts, our sorrows and our hopes and dreams, he knows our soul.

I want every woman to know that they were formed in the image of a king. We are his princesses and we need to be able to look into the mirror and realize that God, our Almighty Creator designed each and every one of us for a specific reason. He created us to live a life of value and to spread love and kindness to everyone.

I want you to know that if you are hurting, struggling, or just needed some positive words today…take heart in knowing the God created YOU because you are special, you are one of a kind and that is BEAUTIFUL!

 

With love,

Brooke

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Nothing feels as good as…

When society tells you that, “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels,”

I say,

Nothing feels as good as having energy to go for a run with your dog.

Running with ease and comfort because you are strong and healthy.

 

Nothing feels as good as having a delicious meal with your family.

Laughing and enjoying each other because you are fully present.

 

Nothing feels as good as having a girls night and baking cookies.

Stealing bites here and there because the dough is so good.

 

Nothing feels as good as having a warm latte with a great friend.

Sitting and enjoying the company of one another because you are full of life.

 

Nothing feels as good as making a delicious smoothie with fresh fruit.

Sipping it as you sit outside and enjoy the warm sunshine.

I just want to let you know that skinny is overrated. When I was at my skinniest, I was unhappy, (miserable actually) and kept telling myself that I needed to lose more and more weight. It was an unhealthy thought process and I missed out on a lot of family, friends, and relationships because I was so concerned about food. So, I want you to know that life is so much more than the number on the scale, what you weigh, or what size of clothing you wear. Cherish your relationships with people because in the end, don’t we all want to thrive and live our lives to the fullest?

From the bottom of my heart, I promise you, nothing feels as good as living your life to the fullest and not having to worry about your weight.

Take care of your body, eat healthy, and always remember that food is fuel and you need to eat to be fully alive and to thrive ❤

Meet Cydney Simon…

Cydney  randomly found my twitter account and that led to her sharing her entire story with me through direct messages. I asked her if she would email me her whole story so that people could read it and realize that if they struggle with suicidal thoughts or depression, that they are not alone. Many people struggle with depression (I have also in the past)  and this is just another story of saving grace. God saved Cydney and now she is using her story to influence many…including me.

“But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” Romans 5:8

I was born in Houston Texas on December 27th. My parents never had all the money in the world so we made do with what we had, being young it didn’t bother me too much. When I was in pre-k I remember getting made fun of because I didn’t have the Barbie cash register, every girl in school had one but me and that’s when the bullying began. I don’t think it bother me too much until I hit 4th grade because the bullying wasn’t just about the things I couldn’t afford but now it was about my appearance. I didn’t know what was going on so I told absolutely no one.

5th grade came around and it was like there was this internal switch that went off that was not allowing me to be happy anymore. That whole year I acted out because I wanted someone to notice how hurt I was. That sadness that I was feeling turned out to be depression. Then I didn’t know what it was because no one talked about it, it was like it was some forbidden secret no one wanted to bring up. I remember crying myself to sleep a lot and feeling like everyone hated me and in return I hated the world. I was so broken and honestly felt like at that point my life was never going to get better.

Fast forward to 11th grade my depression was at its highest point. I felt like my whole family was against me. I always had thoughts of, “If I was gone everyone’s life would be better.” When I was in 11th grade I became extremely suicidal and decided to try and commit suicide. It was honestly one of the hardest days of my life. My mom found me before I could even do anything. That day there was a lot of tears and yelling and I remember being more broken than ever. From that day suicide was something that I constantly thought of. I was so mad at my family, God, and the world. I grew up in church and I always heard of God’s love but I never personally felt it because I had guarded my heart from everyone and everything. That year I felt so alone and unhappy that, that summer I made a “deal” with God. My deal was if I went to summer camp and didn’t have some “huge” moment I was going to come home and kill myself. That summer I went into summer camp not really wanting some huge moment to happen because there was this big part of me that wanted to be gone. At that summer camp God showed up like never before and I felt his love and peace everywhere. I knew in that moment at a Lakewood youth summer camp that I had a purpose to be light to the women/ young girls who are hurting and who have thought their life wasn’t worth living. August 8th 2014 was the day that I chose life and not depression.

This year will be 3 years since I had that life changing moment… One scripture I choose to stand on in times of weariness is Romans 5:8. With depression comes a lot of shame and guilt I always felt like God couldn’t love someone like me, but that scripture says he still died for me knowing all the sins I would make in life. This tells me I WAS WORTH IT in church we always like to say even if I was the only person on earth Jesus would still die for me. I live life with a better outlook on life now. I no longer deal with depression, I’m not so worried what people think about me and I know I’m SOOOO LOVED by the creator of the universe. If you’re reading this I hope this encourages you to keep pushing and know that you are so loved and worth more than you think you are.

Nothing More Beautiful

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“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

As 2016 comes to a close, I pray that you know in the coming New Year just how rare, how precious, how beautiful you truly are. No one is perfect. That is why the words “perfectly imperfect” resonate so deeply with me.

What does it mean to be “perfectly imperfect?”

To me, being perfectly imperfect is knowing that you are God’s original masterpiece. You were made to be absolutely stunning in His image. You don’t need to change yourself, no need to mask what you struggle with, no need to pretend to be someone you aren’t. It means being the real you. It means being who God has made you to be because that is beautiful!

To be perfectly imperfect, we must embrace our imperfections, our fears, our struggles, our hurts, and our insecurities. Giving them to God, praying that He reveals just how beautiful he wants us to feel. Remember that God loves us through our struggles, our hurts, our pain. He sees the real women that we are.

Everyday, as 2017 begins, I want you to remind yourself how perfectly imperfect you are. Grab a sticky note and write “I am perfectly imperfect” on it. Place it somewhere where you will see it everyday and remind yourself that you are a masterpiece. Remember there is no need to be perfect, because there is no such thing as a perfect woman.

With much love….and wishing you a happy New Year

-Brooke

Holiday Struggles

30465ab273d968e59d90752a343a7210.jpg8 days until Christmas!!!

What are you guys excited about? I know that I am excited to spend time with my amazing family and be surrounded by love and comfort!

A couple years ago, around the time of the holidays I would really, really struggle with my body image and my weight. I felt that I needed to exercise like crazy every day and be super careful not to eat anything unhealthy, because I felt like I would gain so much weight over the holidays.  I was too strict with my diet, too regimented with my workouts and too obsessed with how my body looked.

As I write this to you right now, I want you to know that moderation is everything! It took me a very long time to learn this. I also want you to know that there are no “bad” foods, really there aren’t! We deem foods good and bad as a society, but really food is fuel. Food gives us energy to give our family hugs, to pass around presents, and to bake holiday cookies! Now, saying that, there are healthy and unhealthy options, but just because something is unhealthy does not put it on the naughty list! Allow yourself to have treats when you want them.

If you really struggle with eating the whole box of chocolates and cannot just have one, don’t worry, it’s okay, I’ve been there. Think about what is going on. It’s most likely not the food that you are struggling with, its just an outlet, or a coping mechanism.

Are you stressed or anxious? What is making you feel this way?

Are you so uptight (like I was) about your body, workouts, and food that you deprive yourself of what you want?

Are you sad? Are the holidays a hard time for you because of loss or grief?

I want you to know that whatever you are feeling, don’t take it out on your body. Talk about it, let people know what is going on. I know that I hid for so long and it was the most unhealthy thing I could do. People in your life will come around you and support you through whatever it is you are struggling with.

So, these next 8 days until Christmas, try this…3 times a day (breakfast, lunch, and dinner.)

Think about what you are feeling.

Write down three things that are bothering you.

Ask yourself why they are bothering you so much.

Then, think about what you can do to have a positive outlook toward them.

Share with someone your feelings.

If it’s anxiety, maybe take a bath, or take a step back from whatever is making you crazy.

If it is sadness, journal your hurts and your burdens or talk to someone close to you.

If it is being uptight about everything, find ways to loosen up a bit…eat in moderation..try different workouts, etc.

In the end, remember you are worthy of love no matter your size, no matter your weight.

God loves us for who we are regardless of our appearances.

love you all!

Brooke

The Road to Recovery

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“One of the hardest things was learning I was worth recovery.” -Demi Lovato

To those of you who are on the road to recovery…

Stay strong my love, don’t give up.

Keep fighting, keep working, keep going.

I know it’s not easy.

I know it’s challenging.

I know its not fun.

But, it is so worth it.

I know it isn’t pretty.

But, it will turn into something beautiful.

  • You will relapse and that is okay, Rome wasn’t built in a day.

I relapsed many times and it took therapy and counseling and surrounding myself with people who helped me through it all. I could not have done it by myself. So, surround yourself with people who can be honest with you and love you through your struggles.

  • You may feel alone, but trust me love, you are not.

I felt so alone, so afraid. I felt that no one would ever understand my struggles, but trust me, thats not true. No one is perfect. Everyone struggles with something, maybe it isn’t their body image, or food, but it could be alcohol, drugs, or anything else. So, don’t be afraid to speak up and say that you need help. I thought that admitting something was wrong with me was a sign of weakness, but the strongest people are the ones who don’t fight their battles alone. They are the ones who stand up and take ahold of their life and do what needs to be done to keep living the best life possible.

  • You may have bad days, but I promise you there will be good ones too.

There were weeks that were awful for me, months, years even, but each year, each month, and each day had something positive to it. Try to focus on the little things, they are what will turn into big things.

  • And lastly, it’s okay to take each meal day by day. Take each day hour by hour. And if you need, take each hour minute by minute.

There were many days where I had to take it hour by hour to keep fighting, but one hour is a lot less overwhelming than 24! So give yourself grace…you will mess up and that’s okay. Give yourself a break and try again.

With love,

Brooke

Be Unapologetically You

IMG_3998.jpg“You are a beautiful creation. Perfectly imperfect, a work in progress. You have everything you need to fulfill your purpose. Don’t dilute yourself for any person or any reason…you are enough. Be unapologetically you.” -Steve Maraboli

Dear beautiful you…

I want you to understand something:

YOU are allowed to take charge of your life.

YOU can take ownership of your story.

YOU are allowed to know your worth.

YOU can take care of your health.

YOU are allowed to love yourself.

YOU can embrace your talents.

YOU are allowed to make mistakes

YOU can be thankful for your blessings.

YOU are allowed to practice your passions

YOU can forgive those who have hurt you.

YOU are allowed to live life to the fullest.

YOU are meant to be unapologetically you.

YOU can change the world girly!

Psalm 139:14, “You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” You don’t need to be a certain way, you don’t need to act a certain way, and you definitely do not need to look a certain way. I repeat, “You,” yes you!!! “are fearfully and wonderfully made.”

You are irreplaceable, you are adored, you are worthy, you are unique, you are talented, and you are beautiful all in the eyes of the Lord.

I want you to try this exercise this week:

STOP: comparing yourself to others

START:

accepting who you are

being the best you can be

encouraging yourself

following your dreams

respecting yourself

loving yourself

Compliments

IMG_1516.jpeg“Compliment people. Magnify their strengths not their weaknesses.”- unknown

Let’s talk about compliments. Have you ever noticed that most of the time, compliments are usually about physical appearance? Oh, I love your hair! Your eyes are beautiful. You have a gorgeous smile!

This got me thinking..are we only valued by our outer appearance? I know that I want to be valued for the qualities that make me who I am. I want to be noticed and recognized for my love, empathy, and kindness. I would much rather someone tell me how beautiful my soul is than say I have a pretty smile. Yes, that is nice to hear, but what happens if I get in a car accident and my smile is completely altered? Well, I still will have that beautiful soul, that never changes.

I think especially for women, it is important to notice our internal beauty. We get very focused on what we wear, our makeup, our hair, our nails…I could go on, but how often do we try to beautify our souls?

“Beauty is not in the face it is a light in the heart.” – Kahlil Gibran

1 Peter 3: 3-4 says, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

Song of Solomon 4:7 says, “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.”

Try this exercise:

Every time you give someone a compliment, put a note in your phone of what you said.

At the end of the week go back and see how many times it was based on physical appearance. You’ll be surprised how much we focus on that. (I do it to! It’s not a bad thing, but I think people need to understand that they are more than their looks.)

Here is a list of compliments that aren’t about physical appearance:

You inspire me to be a better person.

I love your confidence.

I think you are a strong person.

I love listening to what you have to say.

You have such a kind heart.

You are so generous.

You have a beautiful soul.

Being with you makes me joyful.

Thank you for being so understanding.

You matter so much to me.

Your passions are contagious.

I love how great you are at loving others.

Your positive energy is infectious.

She is Worth More Workshop

Hi guys! So, the workshop is finally here! Buy your tickets before the sell out on Eventbrite. Click this link and it will take you straight there! The workshop will include my workbook on how to have body positivity!  I am so excited to share this with all of you! God has been working in amazing ways and I cannot wait for you all to be a part of it!

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/she-is-worth-more-workshop-tickets-29618770540

Never Give Up!

shoutout3.jpg“Never let a stumble in the road be the end of your amazing adventure.”- Unknown

We have all been there; the weight of the world is on our shoulders, it trips us and we fall. The overwhelming feeling of giving up takes over. As we lie on the ground we think to ourselves, “Why me?” “What did I do to deserve this?” “I want to quit.” “I don’t want to do this anymore.” Has anyone else been in this situation? Or asked similar questions to the ones above? Maybe you didn’t physically fall down, but maybe you’ve felt burdened for a long time and you just can’t deal with it anymore.

Well, I’m here to tell you that you can! Jeremiah 29:11 says, For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

When I was younger someone told me about the analogy that our obstacles are like mountains. Some of these mountains are small, some are medium, and some are huge! God puts these mountains in front of us as we journey through the “hike” of life. Sometimes it is really easy to climb over one of the mountains. It’s a simple hike and you get to enjoy the beautiful view all around you. Other times a huge mountain stands in your way. As you climb to the summit you struggle, you’re out of breath, you may even fall or twist your ankle. You may curse God and be angry that he made it so hard, but in the end, you make it to the top with God’s guidance and there, before you is an even more amazing view. The trees below you are full of vibrant color. The air is crisp and serene. The breeze cools you off as it perfectly blows by, your hair flows in the wind, and you stand in awe of the beauty before you.

Although it may not seem like God has a plan for our life, he does! Every single second, every step on your journey, God knows what he has planned for us. So, it may be challenging and it may be hard in the moment, but God’s plans are so much bigger. When we go through trials and obstacles stand in our way, we need to cry out to God and ask him for his help. He will always be there to hold our hands as we hike through the journey of life.

I want you to try this exercise and see what happens.

Exercise: Grab a piece of paper (place it vertically) and draw a line down the center. On the left side write down “Challenges I have gone through in my life.” On the right side write, “Experiences that have made me a stronger person.”

Usually, the results are amazing! The left and right sides are very similar! That is because God uses “little mountains” to strengthen us and build our character. I know for me, I hated going through being bullied and an eating disorder, but it has made me who I am today and I wouldn’t change that for the world. It has made me more empathetic and compassionate toward others that are hurting. So, try the exercise and remember when everything feels like it is falling apart, keep going and know that God has a huge plan for your life that you may not see or understand. Pray for strength and courage to keep moving forward!

I would love to see what you come up with! Email me or post a picture and tag brookefoy11 and #sheisworthmore on Instagram!